Drinks with Registrars

It’s funny when I went for drinks with my registrars. When alcohol is involved, they say all sorts of funny things. Things that were not quite appropriate, given our professional relationship.

The talk involved things more than just about medicine. It started off about the bizarre and funny cases that they saw during their time at work, and then it went on to gossip about other colleagues, things like how much one colleague in particular always waffled on, giving very little clinical details in their presentations. And then another gossip about another colleague who got a needle stick injury.

This later evolved into talks about the dating scene, relationship statuses, and how they had done one night stands and all!

Then they talked to me, about how I was still young, and should enjoy life as much as I can, how I should also go find someone else for a one night stand!

I enjoyed seeing how my registrars were so open and inappropriate in what they were talking about. That’s what alcohol does I guess. Me – I hadn’t had a drop of alcohol that night (I don’t drink). But it’s interesting to see what alcohol does to people – namely, they lose inhibitions, they talk about inappropriate things. And my registrar was so professional at work, a bit serious at times too.

I’ll never forget about that time my registrars talked to me about one night stands….

Is it Sexual Harassment?

It certainly has been several days since I have updated this blog, and part of the reason has been because my mum came to visit me, so I spent a lot of time with her, and spent less on my blog.

Anyway, a few days ago, I think I might have been sexually assaulted. Ok, maybe that’s an overstatement, but the patient’s actions were certainly inappropriate, and if I were a female and it happened, I could probably claim sexual harrassment. 

So, I was looking after this friendly Italian man. He seemed quite nice, talked about watching Swan Lake, and commented on how I had the gait and grace of a ballet dancer.This should have alerted me at the beginning about something, but when you’re too busy focussed on the patient’s presenting complaints and illnesses, your mind focuses on the illness and the problems.

After chatting to one of the senior doctors about the presentation, the senior doctor saw the patient with me, and explained that everything was alright, that the patient likely had early stages of osteoarthritis of the knee. He was ok to go home. After explaining that, the patient thanked the senior doctor, and then thanked me, slapping me on the butt! Granted, he was lying down on bed, and I was standing beside him. I completely didn’t see that coming.

At such a point, I didn’t know how to react, but I just shrugged it off in a way. But it was a little disturbing to know I got sexually harassed. I’m a guy however so…… am I supposed to just shrug it off and just pretend that nothing happened? It hasn’t distressed me or anything, but I’m just curious as to what would have been an appropriate response to such an action? I mean, do I tell the man it’s inappropriate, or do I ignore it?

Because in society, it’s perceived that a guy doesn’t and can’t get sexually harassed right, because that just doesn’t happen to guys right?